The Mind s Eye By Leslie Bell - 1463 Words

Every human has their own limits. There comes a point where your body can’t physically or mentally overcome some obstacles; but that’s okay. Limitations that can be viewed as hindrances to some, while other’s view their adversities as challenges that will not only strengthen them as a person but allow them to mature through their obstacles. In Leslie Bell’s â€Å"Hard to Get: Twenty-something Women and the Paradox of Sexual Freedom†, Bell coins the term â€Å"splitting† in her writing as a way of thinking that can limit people when it comes to opportunities in their careers as well as relationships. In â€Å"Selections from Love 2.0: How Our Supreme Emotion Affects Everything We Feel, Think, Do, and Become†, Barbara Fredrickson focusses on the†¦show more content†¦With the constant push for conforming into what society deems as acceptable, it is no surprise how much of an impact society plays on limiting the perception of what one’s sexual relationship should be. Society manipulates women into behaving in a certain manner in order to fit into this ideal mold of how women should be. Yet only to a certain point, â€Å"Be assertive, but not aggressive. Be feminine, but not too passive. Be sexually adventurous, but don’t alienate men with your sexual prowess.† (Bell 26) Due to all of the conditions, which limit women, it is no wonder how many young women feel â€Å"weighed down by vying cultural notions about the kind of sex and relationships they should be having.† (Bell 26) Although these limitations proposed by society can cause personal battles between oneself, it is possible to change one’s perception of how one should act regarding their own sexuality. Bell points out that by using â€Å"strategies of desire of the Relational Woman†, (Bell 30) this will assist woman in navigating through their sexual and romantic lives. It is normal for women to feel a desire for relationships and it is inevitable that conflict will arise. If women are able to develop and fully accepting their desires, despite the limitations from society, this will to lead women to building lives that are filled with self-acceptance. Another way to push yourself from the limitations proposed by society, is to look at love in